I start with a great film from the beginning of the century, “Monster’s Ball”. It is the story of a man trapped in a relationship of hatred between generations: his father was cruel to him, he is cruel to his son, the classic emotional snowball that has been more than recorded, both in art and in the social sciences.
Eventually, he decides to put his father in a nursing home because he can’t take the old man’s evil anymore. The lady of the house, at the end of the conversation, tells him, “You must really like your father, right?”. The character’s response is, for me, the clear solution to this emotional, moral and even legal paradox: “NNo, I don’t like it. But he is my father.” He doesn’t like it, but he has a duty to take care of it until the end. We are in the field of social ethics and not affections; It is a civic duty before being a feeling. It can and should be a feeling, but, in the absence of feeling, it is above all a rational and ethical duty.